trent321
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ABOUT ME:
Sincere, warm, jolly, smart, serious, confident, reliable...
I guess I talk a lot here mostly about how I feel and think about marriage (to a guy, I hope) and things related to that, but I think you see a lot about me as a friend by what I say, too, and I do enjoy chatting with different people of all types, even if it is only friends -- though as you can see, I will be very happy to find more with the right person!
Ako ay pag-aaral ng kaalaman tungkol sa filipino kultura at maraming mga bagay-bagay na ginawa ng isang malalim na impression sa akin at gulat ako bilang tunay sumasamo, at ang pahinga, mabuti at masama, ay napaka-interesante sa akin. Marami sa mga tao doon, hindi lahat ng course, ay masyadong mainit-init, masayahin at walang awa sa sarili sa adversity, at higit sa lahat, nagpapahayag at masigasig - tulad ko na. Subalit kung saan ko mahahanap ang tamang tao, na may mga katangian o sa iba discover ko, ang kanilang lahi o nasyonalidad ay hindi mahalaga. Ako ay hindi nagsasalita ng tagalog, ingles lamang, sa gayon ito ay computer-isinalin (ginamit ko ang online na kasangkapan sa http://translation.imtranslator.net/translate/default.asp )..... Umaasa ako na ito ay hindi sabihin ang anumang bagay na kasuklam-suklam o nakakahiya sa pamamagitan ng aksidente, hehe!
I apologize if it is hard to read....it is hard to find how to express everything in the simpest clearest way....but I hope you can notice the important things --
I enjoy talking to new people, so send me a message or let me know you’re interested to know more about me -- I think my membership allows anyone to send me a message, but I’m not totally sure of that. I would like to meet new friends, and eventually I would like to find someone special for marriage. The best relationship for me is where both people are different but equal -- equal in respect, understanding, honesty, reliability, comfort with everything about the other person, curiosity about each other, care and consideration, initiative with each other etc. In general, it should add up to equal, but each person can be very different from the other.
I really enjoy jolly people with an affectionate playful sense of humor who are engaging and just feel good to be with. People who are honest, warm, genuine, a mischievous sense of humor (or enjoy that in another!), curious about life, enjoy life, intelligent, earnest, so many other things I enjoy. I am very curious person, honest, interested in many things, science, politics, human nature, I love to read books about engineering and the story of how things were invented or challenges were overcome, and I want to have a deep trust and comfort with a person where I can be open and feel deeply and they can too. I love music and play the piano, compose songs sometimes, enjoy outdoor explorations, making things, many other things.
I am very independent minded -- I like to discover things for myself, think them through for myself -- including about religion and cultural norms. I ask, what is the real basis for this or that, how do we or can we know it, and what are the real effects on people and society and what matters most in people’s lives?
And ideal of mine is that we each will also share our own weaknesses with the other, and get to know, and care for the other’s weaknesses, too, accepting those vulnerabilities and weaknesses in a safe haven, while also supporting each other however we can so those weaknesses do not hold back each other individually, or hold us back as partners in life.
I think I would like someone who thinks of adopting children, or who is open to the idea of helping young people in need get a better start in life if and when we as a married couple are so fortunate to have the time or resources to be able to do that.
I have been single for 4 years, after I broke up with my previous boyfriend after we had been together for about 6 years. I have learned a lot about myself and about life and about other people in my years, including during my last relationship and in the 4 years since, and I feel very secure in my priorities and very much ready to know the right person if I find him, and I’m very serious about finding somebody for marriage for life this time. : ) If I don’t find someone where we both will be very good for each other and bring out the best possibilities in each other and be very happy together, I will remain alone. : (
I would of course do whatever it takes to relocate to another country, or work equally with my partner to help him relocate (to1 of our original countries, or a third country) so we can be together -- if I’m fortunate enough to find my partner for life and he is in another part of the world.
I acknowledge that age and looks also both affect my attraction to and response to a person, I think this is true to some degree for most people, just some more or less than others --- for me, I relate sometimes to a younger age I think partly because I feel a sense of adventure, and most of all, new discovery, and a new beginning at this time of my life, and I am an idealistic, passionate, exploring and exuberant person by nature, and relate to that sense of those things in some young people even though those things were buried and lost from me for way too much of my adult life (I can tell you more about that when we chat or talk if you want), and maybe also because I missed so much of life in my younger years and now I’m finally ready to go, hehe --- anyway, I accept that about myself (yet a kind of solidness and maturity, like a person with an old soul which has known much of life beyond his years, is also very very beautiful to my own soul and to my admiration of a person). But this is something that varies according to the person....for example here in the U.S., I don’t relate in an intimate way to most of the much younger people that much, perhaps people here mature much older in life, not until their 30s, and maybe are not as open-hearted and idealistic either (I know that’s a horrible generalization, everybody is a unique individual, even in the USA, but still I notice this)....but sometimes I feel more of a real connection to some younger people in other cultures, though there are also things I don’t understand yet and I don’t know what to feel or think about them.
One more thing about the age thing -- I’ve given a lot of thought to it, and here’s my feeling about1 aspect of it -- I think it’s possible and sometimes good if there is a big age gap, but when it comes to marriage both people have to think very honestly and realistically about the future and look into their hearts, especially the younger1. I will try to stay healthy and energetic and vital and attractive until I am at least 120, but if I fail, the younger1 will the1 who is frustrated, or won’t be able to enjoy his full capacities for joyful interactions, or who may be robbed of a strong shoulder to lean on and nurture him, or who may be burdened or have worries or sadness about his spouses failing health or fading light, or who may be left alone. What might seem good for now with a big age gap may look very different to the younger1 in 25 or 30 years, or less. It doesn’t mean it’s impossible or that it can’t be wonderful if the2 people are very special to each other, but it’s something to think about....in this instance, honest soul-searching and serious thought is important -- about this issue, youthful abandon is not the way to go!
But anyway, I will give up some of both of those things for other things, things that bring joy and meaning and feeling when you get to know someone closely, for what is really good and will make the most difference over a lifetime . . . when I see those strong and deep qualities of character in a person and lovely personality, I just love being in the presence of those things, interacting and sharing with them ..... I feel an equality, a trust in their appreciation of life, a joy. . . and 20 extra years or beady eyes and a big nose and ears and slightly snaggly teeth become endearing to me, hehe . . . they become my new type. . . can you understand that?
In romance I am nurturing and affectionate, playful, emotionally open and intimate, confident, sometimes rambunctious, very passionate when we share something intensely in a full way for both people, and I am versatile, but I am more towards being a top with most people I’m attracted to.
Oh, also I don’t want a marriage that is isolated or cut off from the rest of the world, or from friends and family . . . in other words, I like to be ourselves wherever we go, just be open and free and friendly with all the people in our society, and live a normal social and family life, not hide away by ourselves all the time (only sometimes, hehe).
And I think the most important thing of all for both people is that they are can rely on each other, to be honest, sincere, reliable, thoughtful and caring to the other as you would like him to be to you.
ABOUT SOMEONE I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM --
It’s impossible to say in advance because everybody is different and every relationship or friendship is unique and you can’t always imagine who you will love until you discover them. I DO want to be choosy and picky, in the sense of really knowing someone for themselves and knowing that their response to me is based on the real me, and to choose someone where I really feel we are both very good for each other and will bring out the best in each other and support the best possibilities that each of us has in our lives --
But I DON’T want to be picky in a closed-minded way, or seem like I have a long check-list of specific attributes for my ideal partner in life...if I find a special connection with somebody, a lot of the things I mention here might become unimportant. So take them as some clues to my personality and my likes and wants and needs and hopes, not as a checklist.
If you think maybe you will like me, I hope you will give a chance I will like you too, even if I didn’t think of the individual things about you when I was trying to answer this question and imagine the person I will enjoy being friends with, or come to love.
I like to get to know someone in a low-key, relaxed way at first. Chatting online in IM, with or without webcams, emailing and talking on the phone are perfect. Personally I think we give the best chance to discover each other if we leave a lot of sex talk or flirting for later when we know each other as full human beings (if, from time to time, we can’t help our curiosity or help ourselves from expressing and exploring those feelings a little, that’s natural and ok, too, of course, hehe, just shouldn’t be the main thing, or too much too soon).
Like I said, I think I may be surprised by the qualities of the person who I discover that we are very good for each other......maybe I never experienced such qualities before, so I can’t predict them...already I discover that sometimes, and it is very delightful and encouraging to me....but some qualities I know I like are those I spoke of already in my profile....of course honesty and of course thoughtfulness...and also warmth, expressiveness, reliability....but also I hope for somebody intelligent and curious and also serious about understanding life and thinking for themselves, somebody jolly and affectionate, somebody who can poke fun at me in an affectionate way, somebody caring about the society they live in. Of course I also like when somebody is handsome or cute to me....but as I said, I honestly find that when somebody has qualities of character that I respect and that give me peace and joy just to be in the presence of, their ugly face becomes a new ideal of beauty to me (within limits, though, I must admit, hehe).
I would be so happy to not only love, but respect a person and marvel they came into my life, and would hope I have something so they would feel the same, and I truly help bring out the best, and the best possibilities of a wonderful meaningful life, in that person....when you both feel proud of each other as human beings....like you are with family and friends and your gaze falls on him when he doesn’t even notice you’re looking, and you are so happy you found him.
I hope you send me a message or let me know your interest. Also, if you cannot see all my 20 of my photos in my profile, I can email more photos to you later, just ask me. (All the photos in my profile are recent, the oldest1 is from July 2009, but most are from the past couple months, and I hope the combination of photos I chose will give you a good idea how good or bad I can look, hehe, and of some parts of my personality.)
Like I mentioned, I think my membership allows anybody to message me or at least let me know their interest. If what I try to express in my imperfect words are some of the things you believe and feel, too, I really hope I hear from you.
Age: 46 |
seeks gay Filipino dating in
Hilltop,
Seattle Tacoma,
Washington (WA)
USA
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